Sibling Bonding

"Amma, he is putting his foot in my mouth!"

"Amma, he is not letting me into the bathroom"!

"Amma, he is kicking me"

"Amma he has taken my pencil"

"Amma he is trying to remove my panties!!!!!"

"Amma she is calling me cheeky( as in chubby cheeks!!)!"

"Amma she is staring at me"

"Amma she is teasing me"

"Amma she is irritating me"

"Amma he is an idiot, pig, I hate him"

"Amma ask her to get out of the house...."

Hullo.....What do we have here??!

They torment and trouble each other, they fuss and fight, they argue and crib...they are a circus pantomime with-all-the-sound-effects act.

I wonder how and where we are heading with this. I am ineffectual as you can see. Poor disciplinarian. I am either pacifying one or the other. Or at other times, just plain give up and ask them to please take a knife and kill each other...

Ok...I know that's rotten and not to be said at any given time....but I go berserk at times...and so you know where they get it from...and so on and so forth...and the vicious cycle goes on....

Yet there is hope...
(Isn't my blog about that always??!!)

I see the two finally in bed.

"Amma story, story", says the younger brat.

"Not today, I am not happy with your behaviour " I say, in my best supercilious tone.

"Ok, then U will tell me"

Hey hold on, what's going on here??!...

Bang...

He just turns to the most hated occupant of the house and asks her to tell a story...( I don't even hear a please, or maybe the tone has it).

And she does.

It's tata-bye bye mommy and happy times for the twosome.

Wow, they can do a turnabout I think.

Here is another...

Somewhere in the middle of the day, He actually serves her with a bowl of sweets, and she says...hold your breathe...
"Love u da"

Whoa, that's a bombshell in my ears....

Happy and delighted...sure, definitely!!

Then, what is that other rigmarole all about??

Sibling Bonding??

Comments

  1. AshaDecember 31, 2010 at 2:02 AM

    I simply loved this post.I can write reams and reams on this topic. You've just mirrored what's happening in my house.( or is there a better word for mirror, bcos mirror also gives virtual image)
    When we have two children, we are not parents,we are referees.

    A few months back both my 14 and 11 year old had a fight when i scolded my daughter, she started crying and my son runs up to me and tells me ' avallukku sorry solluma, azhara paaru'(tell her sorry ma, she is crying).

    I decided that day i had learnt a lesson, that too very well.

    Now I don't interfere, come what may.

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  2. SoulSpaceDecember 31, 2010 at 7:03 PM

    so true Asha...we are but spectators in some fights is what I have learnt too....!!

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  3. Anuradha ShankarJanuary 5, 2011 at 10:24 PM

    this is one thing I missed, and sometimes really wish i could give samhith.. but as things stand, I guess it would be better to be satisfied with the relative peace at home!

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