Showing posts from January, 2016

Merging Identities

I was driving down the other day, one of my usual and umpteenth trips to the Coaching centre in order to pick up my daughter, when I saw that girl. She was dressed in a men’s shirt and pant, short hair and shoes, the only way I could identify her gender was the slight effeminate nature of her stand. It got me wondering. Gender and it’s use in today’s world of merging identities is a very deep and disturbing space. I know that gender was a need of evolution to identify and sort roles, to facilitate certain behaviours in order to ensure sustainability of the species. But we no longer need such rigid lines. In fact rigidity is the reason why we are facing such excesses as gender bias and discrimination. Our persona takes up the biological characteristics of the organs that we are born with that is all. But beyond that most of us are conditioned and taught to live in a particular way; to behave Male or to behave Female. We further create divisiveness by inserting a third ge

Self Management is like Waste management

At the outset let me say that this metaphorical world I am going to lead you into may be a bit too much for you to handle, that’s alright and that is exactly what looking inwards is all about. It is dirty and downright dangerous and meant for the brave and resourceful only! So as I said, Self Management is like Waste management. You have to do it, you know it and many know it, but we (in India) put it off, till it has piled up so high we are in danger of sinking into our own muck. You have to go inwards, understand yourself and where you are, at different points in life otherwise the sh** will pile up! Having said that some would suggest that Inward journey is a matter of choice – (well we know what you did to all the muck that piled up, you shoved it under the carpet!) Jokes apart... In my mind this is part of life and living –to go inward, understand yourself and retain that which is useful and discard (mindfully) all that which is not. So now that you are willi