SOULspace

I tried something new today Inspired by a friend who more often than not, questions my parenting style... So the question here was, how effectively am I modelling anger management to my children, and can I do something else that is Not about losing it and then apologizing and feeling guilty after?? Hmmm...point...yes...I am way better than where I was say about 6 years back, when I could Bark at the drop of a hat (what a cliche...but apt, as my daughter is particularly fond of Dogs and their antics), and be this Sour/Angry person for no apparent reason, other than in all probability spilt milk or milk not yet finished etc...I am sure you have been there and done that too... So for all of us in this eternal space of learning, here is another insight that I had... With tremendous help from a book called Quiet Leadership by David Rock, I tried a new tactic... First, let me narrate the incident, then my paean on the book will follow... A sure shot tri...

Be Happy I have joined this Theatre group....purely to inflate myself...a total drain on creativity, happiness has forced me to look for a magical space and there it is... 2 wonderful souls, driving a passion train, helping people like me connect with a world that is not competition, judgement, criticism... My assignment for this week to find moments when I experience Nothingness...I could think of a few... sleep being one... moments with loved ones...when we savour our babies...there is an absolute surrender into nothingness... when I am playing a video game!!)...   Turning inwards, within ourselves and finding that peace...that is nothingness as well... happens while meditating... I still have till next week to explore this Nothingness... Do you know or have you experienced any?... hey one more...when I look into the night sky sitting on the beach....staring into that Space...the Nothingness and Oneness....invades my soul...

After some deliberation, I have decided to change my  Blog name More than stories, I  have shared a part of me; my thoughts So keeping that spirit alive, here I call it Soul Space

Some great words uttered From the babes mouth as they say Son: I have to do my home work Me: Ok do it Son: I know what I have to do, but I dont know what to do Me: Duh?!! Me: Got it; you know what homework is to be done; but dont know how to do it? Son: Yes Phew got that one sorted out!! ------------------------------------------------------------------------ (Me: very upset with something that happened with daughter in the school, Me: teary, upset and frustrated) Me: We need to talk about this, cannot ignore how it must make you feel Daughter: Amma, not now, I dont want to talk about it. Please go and handle your feelings and then we'll see... Me: Huh?!! ( Who is the mother here?..I go away rejoicing that her emotional maturity is way better than mine!) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------

I think I have mentioned this before, but methinks it's worth a re-mention now. My daughter is greatly into pointing out discrimination, prejudice and racial biases to us and to me specifically. Though I would like her to boldly state her thoughts and feelings to all and sundry, I guess she is testing waters here and I happily try to support her views. Skin colour and advertisements that proclaim instant fairness gets her goat, and mind you; she started this way back when she was 9; and now she is 11. She dislikes these ads and will tell you skin colour is there for a purpose and what does it serve to try and va(r)nish yourself. Then another conversation about veg/non-veg, and discrimination on religion/ food preferences. She was very cut up that anyone can deny a house on rent because the tenant eats non-veg. For that matter, the boy/ girl divide is another area she can take her guns out for. Typical stereotype that I am, I do make senseless statements, like the other day...

Here is a story You have to read...click on the link below..and don't read my blog till you finish reading this: http://shikasrini.blogspot.in/  Success and Failure is something close to my heart Why do we have narrow confining views on what this is? Is Success about having a lump some in your bank account? or is it about  following your vision? Is it as linear as we want it to be? or is it achievable even if we take many diversions and have many reinventions on the way? What does this success mean if it is at the cost of being happy? Why is Failure so repugnant that we fear to experience it? We fear to expose our children to it? It's known by almost everyone that the learning we gain from Failure is far greater than what we gain from only Success. In fact if I look at it in one way I can even say lets learn to rejoice and celebrate Failure (where and why the shame?) Where is the humiliation when every time You Fail while doing something you are told ...

Ok folks, Theme Based Story telling is IN! So we did FINDING NEMO at an activity centre ... I must say (with chagrin), I had actually never watched that movie completely, bits and pieces, here and there, and of course more from the kiddos and hubby, who just loves the movie...but as I am the flighty thing, I tend not to really pay attention. So finally my Work (!!) actually forced me to watch the movie. Thanks to the beloved son taking ownership for that, we popped in the movie CD, and while I prepared the props for the theme based Storytelling / Activity time, we also parallely watched the movie. I just loved Ellen DeGeneres in it, totally fit into the character of Dory, I loved the turtles and (that is so cool to show turtles speeding through the East Australian Current)...and just about everything about the movie... What a slow coach I am :) Well the next theme that we did was something closer to kids...very small kids Thomas and Frie...